If you'd like to try praying, I have two recommendations:
First, I use a forgiveness prayer when I feel hooked or tied up by blame and shame. I've used it especially when I am ping ponging between blaming the other party and blaming myself. I've used it at home and in the world. You can download my forgiveness prayer here.
Second, I recommend using a structured prayer when you're in a seriously stuck situation involving several people, especially if you know you're playing a...
I've been feeling grief, anger and fear since hearing about Ahmaud Arbery. It was so emotionally overwhelming I didn't want to share with you. As you know, I have a son who is Black. I have nephews. I have a brother. It was all too close.
Now that I've had a moment to breathe, I'm writing to ask you to join me to create more justice and peace and love right now.
One, sign our partner petition with JustGeorgia, a coalition of progressive and social justice organizations including the...
Many of you replied to me with condolences and reached out for the quick gratitude check-in calls. Congrats to Leslie, Bugz, Heidi, and Joy. You were randomly/divinely selected.
This morning I had my first call with Leslie. To begin our conversation, we started to breathe together and a new gratitude meditation just flowed through me. Fortunately, I was recording the session,...
You know the key ingredient to doing good racial justice work and cultivating powerful partnerships across the color line?
Can you distinguish what is your responsibility, what is someone else's and when to let go and trust the process?
Find out more about this on The OPT-IN, a podcast hosted by a Black and White woman Team, Aurora and Kelly.
I had a great time sitting down with Aurora + Kelly of The Opt-In podcast to talk about Racial Justice...
What's rough for you right now?
I've been going through a tough time at home.
One of my beloved mentors died a couple days ago.
And, I'm not sleeping well. Again.
I have felt angry, judged, dismissed and abandoned. I've also felt guilty,
ashamed, not worthy of love, and defensive.
Maybe you can relate.
I call this suffering--for short!
The furthest thing from my mind at times like this is gratitude.
But wouldn't you know it?
This is the message I've been getting from Jojopah Nsoroma, a Black...
It hurts to write this post.
I've been reading Ibram Kendi's articles on how Covid-19 is exacerbating racism and anti-Asian and Anti-Black stereotypes and killing people of color at higher rates. (See links below.)
Here are some of the "low" lights.
I just released my second book since I launched my Racial Justice from the HEART Business. Lots of people ask me if writing a book is hard or how to do it in a way that helps your finances as well as your calling in the world. Please read the interview below to find out what I learned after publishing my first book in 2016. My NEW book Stop Being Afraid to Say the Wrong Thing is the second in a series on this topic. You can order it on Amazon today!
Below is an interview I did...
As another Halloween came and went, racist costumes came and went at my local liberal arts college. People of color were harmed. Forums, rallies, meetings. Implied death threats. Massive social media.
And the tension mounts.
The lines are broadly students of color vs. administration (some of whom are people of color). But there are many nuances.
We are in full conflict, and it hurts.
How to get through this crisis and grow stronger?
How to ride the emotions and the ego rushes and not let them...
Dear Racial Justice from the Heart Readers:
This week's blog is dedicated to answering questions from a recent Q&A call for people who signed up for my Afraid to Say the Wrong Thing? Master class.
Please join us for the Stop the Hurt; Stop Your Implicit Racial Bias 5 Day Challenge.
An important question came up--again. So, I though I'd share the edited transcript with you.
Peace and love,
What do I do when I live in an all white community or there's an all white...
This week I want to start to address how we talk about racism in a multiracial context rather than a black-white binary.
Recently, I got this question from Naomi who attended my Afraid to Say the Wrong Thing? master class. After the master class, we had a live Q&A call. Below you'll find the transcript of my answer during the Q&A call.
If you'd like a structure or some scaffolding to help you navigate your difficult conversations about racism. Please check out the replay...