Since I returned from our Strong Voice Compassionate Heart Retreat, two people, two beautiful change makers have told me this.
They are not alone.
One of the most important things I got out of a self compassion class is that our minds are not here to make us happy.
The mind is conditioned to keep us safe.
Safety means staying vigilant about harm.
We’re constantly thinking about what’s wrong; what’s a threat; and how we are not...
I’m sitting at a roof top listening to Michael and Francis talk about how musicians make time, generating past and present and future. We move on to Sun Ra. Then Francis shares how our mental strength correlates to how much awe we experience in our daily lives. Music and art including Mother Earth’s creativity can make us feel AWE!
This is what happens when composer Francis Wong is in town...
Have you ever been in a conversation when someone complimented you in a way that put themselves down?
Have you ever thought OMG, that person (Michelle Obama or Lupita Nyongo for me) is so confident, smart and comfortable in her skin--and I'm not? I suck!
Well, I recorded a conversation with my friend and former client Melody Leon about what to do when that happens. Listen here!
We also talked about how you can recover when your nervous...
Let's take a moment to thank Malcolm and to thank Yuri. Sunday May 19th would have been their birthdays.
They saw the interconnection of the movements of people all over the world for freedom, dignity, and self-determination.
How fitting that they shared a birthday and that Yuri, a Japanese American held Malcolm after the assassins bullets brought him down in 1965.
I want to share some beautiful art that shows Black and Asian unity.
One of the most important relationships in racial justice is that between European American women and African American women. If we could heal this partnership, what would be possible? To do that requires a reckoning...
How do white women use their power? Often it is subtle, appearing as weakness and fragility. However, historically and to this day, a white woman in distress triggers a powerful...
Have you ever asked yourself:
Am I being used by this organization?
Is my image or participation being used to make it seem like this school is more racially diverse and just than it is?
If so, you are not alone. I share some suggestions on how to avoid being tokenized as change makers as well as how to deal with trigger words that make us shut down in conversations.
I hope you will join me for the Strong Voice: Compassionate HEART Retreat.
We are going to focus on...
I want to share with you the value of private mentoring. Especially for those of us who experience imposter syndrome. You know that feeling like you’re not REALLY qualified because so few people who look like you hold certain positions. Or, maybe felling like you're not REALLY Black/Latinex/Queer etc because you've overcome barriers that folks from your community rarely overcome.
My spiritual coach said...
I'm sitting here with my fave decaf coffee.
I want to share with you what it's like for me right now.
Yesterday I read an article where a Black woman academic explained why she resigned from her tenured position at a small predominantly white college. She told of the psychological and emotional cost of taking a public stand with students protesting racism at her school. In anger, she had verbally lashed out her colleagues of European descent. She was caught on video and experienced a...
Recently a European American woman I mentor told me that she's working to desegregate her life. I love it that she put it this way. Desegregating implies that she's aware of the systems of segregation that have kept her in a white bubble and that she's responsible for desegregating her whole life.
Desegregating your life means consciously looking for places to support the leadership of African American, indigenous, or colonized folks. Segregation is not just about separation. Segregation...
I was recently mentoring someone who freezes and panics when she hears or sees overt racism.
I could hear the shame as she apologized for letting me down.
Here’s what I told her:
Start with getting your feet on the ground and conscious breathing.
The first step in having a strong voice is merely staying present.
You may have all kinds of good reasons why your body adrenalizes or shuts down in the face of racism.
Instead of shaming and blaming yourself, I suggest you make a commitment to...